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Take a look through someone else’s eyes: the power of perspective

Have you ever been in this situation? You look across the office to see a colleague looking angry or distressed. ‘What’s wrong?‘ you ask. ‘Look at this email I’ve had – unbelievable!‘ comes the reply. You go over to read … Continue reading

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Three words to build better relationships

In an average day, how many times do you say ‘hello‘ (or its equivalent)? How many times do you ask ‘how are you?‘? How many times do you answer ‘fine‘ without really thinking about it? How many times do you … Continue reading

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Want a different outcome? Choose how you respond

Last week, one of my clients – let’s call him Paul – was telling me about how frustrated he becomes when certain things happen. ‘What really irritates me is that the end result is always the same. I’m annoyed, stressed … Continue reading

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Dealing with demotivation (part 2)

Having talked about the demotivating impact of other people and of lack of autonomy on the blog last time, today’s dastardly duo of demotivators is inadequate goal-setting and lack of external stimulus. The demotivating impact of inadequate goal-setting ‘My appraisal … Continue reading

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How writing about positive experiences can help us feel less anxious

A client sent me an email last week with an intriguing subject line: ‘We were right!’ – who could resist opening that message immediately? Caroline (not her real name) had sent me a link to an article entitled ‘To reduce … Continue reading

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How can we better understand one another?

As I mentioned last time, we live in a complex and hectic world. I’ve had Elvis Costello’s song ‘Peace, love and understanding’ on the brain for a while now and have been thinking about potential reasons for misunderstanding each other. … Continue reading

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Need a new perspective on an issue? Try a new frame

Imagine you have a wonderful photo that you’d like to display. You take it to a picture framer to have it professionally mounted and she asks you what kind of frame you’d like. ‘I usually go for a plain black … Continue reading

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