Having talked about the demotivating impact of other people and of lack of autonomy on the blog last time, today’s dastardly duo of demotivators is inadequate goal-setting and lack of external stimulus.
The demotivating impact of inadequate goal-setting
‘My appraisal has left me so demotivated,’ sighed Andrew. ‘My previous manager used to ask us to set our own goals and objectives but the new one has done it for us, based on the objectives she’s been set. It was all done before we got into the meeting, she didn’t really want to discuss it and now I’m looking at the next six months wondering how the heck I’m going to do this.’
I shared with Andrew my belief that whilst I don’t really care whether goals are set using PRISM, PURE, CLEAR or any other methodology, they should never be STUPID. He particularly identified with the S (someone else’s), the P (pointless – he hadn’t been given the rationale for the goals) and the D (disconnected). He decided to go back to his boss, get clarity on what her objectives were and suggest that he crafted his own goals to support those which he would then discuss with her. That was three months ago and the last time I spoke to him, he was motivated and making great progress.
The demotivating impact of lack of external stimulus
This demotivator is particularly relevant to, but not limited to, those who work at home, whether paid or unpaid.
As an introvert, I am very happy to work at home, connecting with many of my coaching clients via video calling. Having said that, I love my ‘face-to-face’ days, out there in the big wide world with clients in the hustle and bustle of every day life. I have learnt that in order to stay motivated and engaged with my work, sometimes I need to give myself permission to do something different.
I ensure that I plan in time with colleagues who’ve become friends where we can bounce ideas off each other and offer support; I make sure to spend time with my friends who have nothing to do with my coaching; I take time out to explore and get inspiration from the outside world, whether that’s virtually or in real life.
Like me, you may have noticed that your motivation wanes sometimes and you just want to down tools and do something else entirely. I recognise that this isn’t always easy if you’re at home with small children, have caring responsibilities or are unwell yourself. I also understand that this isn’t limited to those at home: it’s possible to feel this way in a busy office or on a noisy factory floor or on the wards of a hospital.
Two pebbles for your consideration – choose which one is most relevant to you right now:
- Are your goals demotivating you? Will you take another look at them using the STUPID framework and see whether you can tweak them to work better for you?
- If you’re lacking external stimulus, what one step can you take to address this? If you can’t get out, can someone come to you – either in the flesh or via technology?
Which demotivators will we work to defuse next? Come back next week to see.
Turning over pebbles is the blog of Thinking Space Coaching.
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