The value of not hiding our flaws

One of my clients – let’s call him Ben – is a great manager. His team love working for him, he builds great working relationships with other departments and he has the full support and respect of his manager. We can be certain of this because as part of our work together, I solicited feedback on him from key stakeholders. One of the questions asked the respondent to name Ben’s greatest quality and describe its impact and value to the business.

As I reviewed the responses, there was a clear theme running through the answers to this question –

‘Honesty’, wrote one. ‘Ben is completely straight with everyone he comes into contact with. There’s no game-playing or politics.’

‘Authenticity’, said another. ‘What you see is what you get. Ben doesn’t try to hide stuff when it’s not going right. He doesn’t pretend or fake it.’

‘Acceptance and openness’, wrote a third. ‘He realises that we’re all human, that we make mistakes, that none of us is perfect, and nor are our products whilst they’re in development. In fact, he encourages us to flag up those mistakes and sees them as opportunities to learn. Consequently, our team seems to function more effectively and make more progress as we’re not hung up on covering up problems.’

Over the last week, two things reminded me of Ben and his approach to life and work. The first was this image of beautifully repaired Japanese pottery which seemed to be doing the rounds on the internet:


I cannot find the original source for this – please do drop me a line if you know who created it.

Ben’s approach to management, both of himself and of others, reminds me of this technique which doesn’t shy away from flaws but repairs them visibly. This acknowledges that the flaws occurred but also acknowledges that their repair leads to the finished product being even better than when it was apparently perfect.

And that leads me on to the second reminder. In the days since Leonard Cohen‘s death, it seemed that two of his songs were being played most frequently: Hallelujah and Anthem. The chorus of Anthem goes like this:

Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack, a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in

Whether it’s a problem with a product or a human error that’s been made, Ben sees flaws as illuminating and opportunities to learn and make progress.

Today’s pebble for you to ponder: could a willingness to reveal your flaws help you create something even better, whether that’s in your work or in your home life?

What do you think?


Turning over pebbles is the blog of Thinking Space Coaching. 

If you’d like to make progress in your work and life, email me and let’s have a conversation about how we can work together.

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3 Responses to The value of not hiding our flaws

  1. A great post, as ever. I love the lines from Leonard Cohen – they’ve been a source of inspiration to me for some time now, and have really helped me overcome the feeling that it’s too late for me to change my life.

  2. Pingback: Is ‘bouncing back’ an essential part of resilience? | Turning over pebbles

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