Back in the twentieth century when Pong was about as high tech as it got, my brother, Andrew, whiled away his hours with books rather than computer games. He particularly liked those ‘Choose your own adventure’ books in which the reader took the part of an adventurer in search of treasure, or a prince rescuing a princess or an explorer seeking some undiscovered land. The books gave him the chance to choose his own fate (from a limited set of predetermined options but still, heady stuff for an 8 year old!). He would be offered options such as:
a) pick up the torch and set off down the darkest passage? (turn to page 17)
b) return to the meeting point to collect your friends before setting off? (turn to page 24)
c) grab the rope and swing across the gaping chasm? (turn to page 42)
Only then would he find out whether he’d be trapped in a rock fall, that his friends had all deserted him or that he would read the other side of the chasm to find a dusty treasure chest. I don’t think the outcome really mattered to Drew – the thrill was in making his own choices.
At about the same time, the teenager who would grow up to become my husband was engrossed in a text-only computer game called Adventure bringing phrases like ‘You are in a maze of twisty little passages, all alike‘ and ‘Paths lead off in *all* directions’ into his vocabulary. Again, the fascination was knowing that you could decide your own fate by the choices you made.
Has that changed? Don’t we all like to have choices? What are you facing today?
a) go for the interview?
b) stick with your current role, taking every opportunity to extend your knowledge and experience?
c) strike out on your own?
Regardless of our circumstances, there is usually something we can choose. Sometimes those choices may not have the result we were hoping for – sometimes the result will be even better than we dared dream. Sometimes we will have the option to turn to a new page and then flip back to where we started: sometimes, we will have to work with the
Helen Keller wrote “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.”
Today’s pebble for you: What will you choose this week?
I’d love to hear from you,
ps if you’re working through some choices at the moment and feel that having a coach alongside you would be helpful, why not email me to see how we might work together?
Turning over pebbles is the blog of Thinking Space Coaching.