In the 1954 film Sabrina, Audrey Hepburn plays Sabrina Fairchild, the beautiful daughter of the chauffeur to the Larrabee family. Having grown up on their estate, Sabrina has had many opportunities to observe the family and to fall head over heels in love with the playboy son, David Larrabee, who ‘went through several of the best eastern colleges for short periods of time, and through several marriages for even shorter periods of time’. There’s no way that David is going to end up with the chauffeur’s daughter so Sabrina is sent off to cookery school in Paris for two years to get over her unrequited love.
On her return to Long Island, she is so elegant and poised that David doesn’t recognise her at first. He is very taken with her, planning to call off his imminent wedding: a union designed by his older brother, Linus, for corporate convenience rather than love. Linus decides to intervene by wooing Sabrina himself. Whilst out sailing, their conversation turns to past heartbreaks and Linus becomes pensive.
Sabrina has a suggestion for him:
Sabrina: Maybe you should go to Paris, Linus. It helped me. Have you ever been there?
Linus: [thinks] Oh yes. Once. For thirty-five minutes.
Sabrina: Thirty-five minutes?
Linus: Changing planes. I was on my way to Iraq on an oil deal.
Sabrina: Oh, but Paris isn’t for changing planes, it’s for changing your outlook!
We can’t all go to Paris for two years to change our outlook but sometimes we need to find some perspective on what’s happening at work or in life. Sometimes literally changing our outlook can help: when I’m looking down on my surroundings from the top of a hill, my thoughts seem to clear. Perhaps it’s different for you: maybe it’s about meeting up with an old friend and finding clarity through a much-needed chat with someone who truly knows you and what makes you tick. Maybe you feel you need to go and do something completely different: go for a swim or dig over the vegetable bed. It’s helpful to recognise what works for you so you can take action when you feel stuck in the doldrums.
Today’s pebble for you to consider: How do you change your outlook?
What do you think?
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